Tuesday, April 27, 2021

The war-time messages that tell of the loves, laughs and longings of their authors

From stuff.co.nz

Hundreds of letters and pocket diaries – some perfectly intact, some falling apart – are stored away in shoe-boxes and folders across Marlborough. Maia Hart speaks to their safe-keepers to commemorate this year’s Anzac Day.

William Trickey Woods, World War I
William Trickey Woods and Leila Ethel May Woods (nee Mills) pictured on their wedding day.
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William Trickey Woods and Leila Ethel May Woods (nee Mills) pictured on their wedding day.

When William Woods was blinded at Gallipoli during World War I, he was pulled from the front line and sent home to New Zealand.

He was admitted to the Queen Mary Hospital in Hanmer Springs, which was set up for returning wounded and sick soldiers. Hanmer Springs, along with Trentham, Featherston and Rotorua, were chosen as hospital sites by the Government.

It was there that he met Leila Ethel-May Mills, whom he later married. To Woods, she was simply “Lil”.

They kept in contact through writing letters when her job as a physiotherapist, or masseuse, took her to Rotorua, and he stayed in Hanmer Springs.

Despite being blinded, his letters had few mistakes. Lil learnt braille so she could reply.

A letter William Woods sent Leila “Lil” Mills, about four months before they married.
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A letter William Woods sent Leila “Lil” Mills, about four months before they married.

July 21, 1917

“I am always looking forward and hoping to receive your dear thoughts through the post, and whenever I think how difficult it must have been for you at first to write braille and how many of your charming letters I have received, then I am more than ever certain that had I searched the whole world over I should nowhere have found another girl whom I could love and respect as yourself dear.”

Woods’ granddaughter Jill Rogers, of Marlborough, said her grandfather was an “amazing man”.

“He never had one trace of bitterness. You’d think if you were blinded, and you were so young, that you might be.”

Each of the letters told a story of the day, like on September 16, 1917, when Woods had an “earthquake for dinner... with the pork”. According to Woods, the “two blended together nicely”.

There were so many letters, Rogers hadn’t had the chance to read them all.

There are so many letters, Jill Rogers hasn’t had the chance to read them all.

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There are so many letters, Jill Rogers hasn’t had the chance to read them all.

August 7, 1917

“Practically the whole of the morning I waited on Colonel Rhodes - who desired to converse with me for a few moments. He is very interested in Gallipoli and has been all over which we held there and knows the “Daisy Patch” well. I am rather glad now I waited to see him, for he is a fine chap and I think it just as well to keep in with these fellows.”

August 11, 1917

By the way dear did you see the “Aurora” - was going to add “Borealis” but the spelling of this word has tied me into three knots so hope you will get me - that the above is the correct terminology for the “Southern Lights”. They appeared 6 or 7 o'clock on Thursday evening - a good many people thought it was the reflection of a fire. The heavens between the ferry and Glenwye were all the colours of the rainbow between pink and green and were more beautiful to look upon that anything of this nature has been for years. I wished very much my sweetheart that you had been here to describe these things to me ...”

By Boxing Day 1917, the pair married.

“He was never sorry for himself, there’s no self-pity. He was the most able person,” Rogers said.

“Some people are able-bodied, but dysfunctional. He was disabled, but so highly functional.”

Leila Mills had to move to Rotorua to work after she met and fell in love with William Tricky Woods.
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Leila Mills had to move to Rotorua to work after she met and fell in love with William Tricky Woods.

Being quite young at the time, Rogers didn’t remember her grandfather talking much about the war, just that he could “chop the finest kindling” and he would take her to the Farmer’s Tearooms, in Christchurch, to get a pie for lunch.

“My father was in World War II, and he served in Italy, and he did [talk] sometimes, when he had a few drinks.”

James Colin Jamieson, World War II

James Colin Jamieson was held in a prison camp in Poland during WWII.
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James Colin Jamieson was held in a prison camp in Poland during WWII.

Blenheim woman Denise Cooper stumbled upon her father’s World War II letters after both of her parents had died.

“They were in a plastic bag, I couldn't believe it,” Cooper said.

Each of the letters were sent by her father, James Colin Jamieson, to his mother.

July 24, 1940

My Dearest Mother. I have just had a nice cold shower and have changed my clothes and am feeling pretty perky and thought I would drop you a line or two. I have just put the socks on that Aunty Maude knitted for me and they are real good. When you see her you can tell her that they have stood the strain very well and as yet there are no holes in them.

A letter to Jamieson’s mum after he had been released to the United Kingdom.
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A letter to Jamieson’s mum after he had been released to the United Kingdom.

April 29, 1941

Dear Mum. Just a line to let you know that I am okay and in the best of health. We are in the island of Crete about 200 miles from Athens. I came through it all without a scratch though we were dive bombed and machine gunned and shelled almost everyday for a fortnight. I saw Big Jack and Auther Hooker the day we arrived here and we had a few drinks together and that night we shared our blankets. Jack is looking well even though they had a tough time. I hope you are not worrying yourself sick over me. At the first chance I will have my photo taken and let you see that I am well.

Not long after this letter Jamieson was captured in Crete in 1941 and taken to a prison camp in Poland.

“Reading the letters, I really did learn the real hardship they went through,” Cooper said.

“But my dad always said that the normal German soldiers who captured them, looked after him very fairly, he was pretty well looked after in the prison camps, compared to the other people.”

Jamieson’s daughter, Denise Cooper, found the letters in a plastic bag after her parents had died.
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Jamieson’s daughter, Denise Cooper, found the letters in a plastic bag after her parents had died.

He even got a cake on his 21st birthday, Cooper said.

“He always talked very fondly, for someone that was inside a prison camp. They were very good to him.”

About nine years ago, Jamieson sent the letters away to have them treated, to last longer.

“He was a very humble man. He never talked a lot about the war, unless he had a few to drink.

“I laugh at some of the letters, some of the expressions you wouldn’t get away with that today, some of what he said. Times have changed, he was pretty blunt.

“He quite surprised me that he wrote so much to his mum, he was very loving.”

Jamieson sent many letters home to his mother.
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Jamieson sent many letters home to his mother.

June 26, 1942

Dear Mum. I received your parcel two days ago and it was real good. It contained pullover two shirts, two sets of underclothes, two towels, three pair of socks, face cloth, eight soap tooth packs and brush razor blades, and ton of chocolates. I could give you a big hug and a kiss for that.

“My husband and I recently did a trip to Germany, and we went to a couple of the concentration camps. And I just realised how lucky my dad was, he never ended up in one of them,” Cooper said.

“He wouldn’t have been my dad if any of that happened. It really opened my eyes.”

Harry Bernyle Thomas Hoar, World War II

Mounted up ready to patrol: Harry Bernyle Thomas Hoar served for the HQ Company 35 Battalion in the South Pacific.

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Mounted up ready to patrol: Harry Bernyle Thomas Hoar served for the HQ Company 35 Battalion in the South Pacific.

Although Terry Hoar didn’t have the original handwritten diary and notebook of his father, as the original sat in the National Army Museum in Waiouru, he did have a photocopy.

The diary had hundreds of pages of notes that Corporal Harry Bernyle Thomas Hoar kept when he served for the HQ Company 35 Battalion in the South Pacific.

Terry Hoar didn’t remember his father doing much art growing up, but he was quite the cartoonist. The sketches showed plenty of humour too, despite the dark times.

A cartoon sits alongside a poem inside Harry Bernyle Thomas Hoar’s journal.
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A cartoon sits alongside a poem inside Harry Bernyle Thomas Hoar’s journal.

“He never talked to me much about the war, it was only really when he went to the RSA I think, and I never really went there with him,” Terry said.

“He never used to go there [RSA], but his doctor said to him, ‘what do you do after work?’

“He said, ‘I just go home’, but he said he should relax, have a chat, because they used to talk about the war, I think that helped more.”

A drawing from May 23, 1942.
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A drawing from May 23, 1942.

March 13, 1943:

“How they get on at night without mosquito nets I don’t know as when we first came here we were without them, and you never saw such a mess in all your life as the faces and arms of some of the chaps after they had had a feed of them. As I sit writing waiting for a job a Fijian is busy pounding away with a piece of solid steel on a block of wood hollowed out in the middle, on which is placed the cava root and pounded away until it is powder and that mixed with water makes a very popular drink ... which they call cava. If drunk in large quantities it produces a sort of paralysis of the legs but unlike our beer, leaves the mind quite clear.”

A somewhat cheeky cartoon drawn by Hoar.
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A somewhat cheeky cartoon drawn by Hoar.

Colin William Burt, World War II

Colin William Burt was killed in action during World War II.
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Colin William Burt was killed in action during World War II.

Then, there were some that never came home.

Mary Love’s uncle, Colin William Burt, was killed in action in April 1945.

Burt had served with the army as a Temporary Bombardier in the South Pacific, before he enlisted with the Royal New Zealand Air Force in 1943.

Love had a collection of her uncle’s pocket diaries and letters. It seemed Burt was keen to document the days.

“As I didn't receive this diary until 16th Feb, the period until then will not be in detail, but from memory. Of course I remember the memorable day when I was reduced to the ranks.”

Burt kept a pocket diary, keeping a record of what he did each day.
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Burt kept a pocket diary, keeping a record of what he did each day.

His 1943 diary included snippets about rifle range shooting, but also more chilled times about cricket, or the time in April when he got a haircut.

A letter he wrote while “at sea in the Indian Ocean” wasn’t dated, but detailed what leaving Wellington was like.

“I am going to try and give you a few lines on the trip so far as we have gone, a good one so far. When I got aboard at Wellington I tried to get up the bow of the boat, but couldn’t, too many there, so climbed the rigging just as the boat moved off the wharf but am sorry to say that I couldn’t get a glimpse of any of you.”

Love says she has got interested in learning more about her uncle as she has got older.

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Love says she has got interested in learning more about her uncle as she has got older.

“When the sea is rough at all you roll about in the bunk one side to the other and have to hold on in case of getting tipped out. I get a good appetite on board but don't get enough exercise. There is not much room with about eleven hundred aboard they are like flies around a honey pot.”

Growing up she was told her uncle was killed in England. But, a letter in her collection said he died in Italy.

“It was his body that was brought back to England and buried in Oxford, according to the letter,” she said.

Mary Love with a picture of her uncle, Colin William Burt, who died in April 1945, while on active duty.

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Mary Love with a picture of her uncle, Colin William Burt, who died in April 1945, while on active duty.

Love said she held on to the letters and diaries because their history was important.

“I’ve hung on to everything, history gets lost, so I think it’s important. I just wish I knew more.”

Wednesday, April 21, 2021

Anne Hailes: A wonderful trip back in time to Paris, 1965

From irishnews.com

By Anne Hailes

LOCKDOWN has resulted in lots of surprises, phone calls from long lost friends, a card here, a letter there and a lot of early spring cleaning which has revealed treasures I thought were long lost too.

It was a great joy to come on a faded photograph and a small university notebook, each page crammed with my mother's neat writing telling the story of our unforgettable week in Paris – not a lockdown Paris as it is today but a city steeped in romance and glamour. She began at the very beginning.

With my mother in Paris, April '65. 'The waiters were ultra attractive. Frenchmen appreciated women in love with their city and they were most attentive'

 24th April 1965

Flight Aldergrove to London – snack meal chicken and ham salad etc and coffee. Then by Comet flight 364 to Paris 40 minutes in the air. 529 miles per hour at 21,000 feet. 200 Kingsize cigs for 20/- (£1 today) 10.45 landed in Le Bourget.

:: Paris here we come

My French Huguenot descendent mother had researched our trip and polished up her schoolgirl French and was convinced she was fluent, although the gendarme at the Arc de Triomphe didn't think so. However, undaunted, she battled on and between miming and her few words she got the information she wanted and a salute from himself.

It was moving to stand at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier by the Flame of Remembrance and realise legions of Nazis marched through this hallowed spot in 1940.

The day she wanted tissue paper to wrap a gift was something of a Les Dawson sketch. She acted out a sneeze – atissu atissu – followed by ‘papier'. Logic did not win in this case and we left two confused assistants muttering about the ‘English' and without our wrapping.

She notes that the bidet was a mystery but useful as a foot bath after a day's adventuring or sitting planning our day while breakfasting on croissants and apricot jam.

In those days Paris was the centre of elegance, ladies in fabulous couturier Coco Chanel suits, picture hats and poodles. Handsome men who thought nothing of following a young girl with her mother to hand over a little bunch of flowers – romantic or what.

As the songs says, ‘April in Paris, chestnuts in blossom', their white and pink flowers like candles only outdone by the scent of the lilac trees in the late evening.

:: Living the history

The Palace of Versalles and the Hall of Mirrors, 246 feet long with 400 mirrors, reflected the history of the French kings, especially Louis XIV and Marie Antoinette.

On the way we passed the Paris television centre, the largest TV studio in Europe at that time. The racing stables of Marcel Boussac, then the richest man in France, who owned Christian Dior fashion house.

A bateau mouche for our evening meal. As the riverboat sailed the River Seine we were shown to a window table on the top deck. It was getting dark and soon the lights on the boat were turned off and we were lit by candles. All was nothing until we reached Notre Dame.

I don't need mummy's diary to remember that moment. The walls rose from the water and the cathedral towered above us, the famous and beautiful Rose Window lit from inside; it was breathtaking. Fortunately it survived the fire in 2019.

That night the glorious carved stonework stood out in the sympathetic floodlight. It was awesome in every sense of the word. As we approached, the music was Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring but at just the right moment, Bach's Toccata and Fugue took over, filling the boat and bouncing off the walls of the cathedral, adding to this majestic experience. 

The waiters were ultra attractive. Frenchmen appreciated women in love with their city and they were most attentive.

Romance was in the air and April in Paris 53 years ago was life changing for both mother and daughter, especially the afternoon she was chatted up as we sat at a pavement cafe in the sun. A wealthy American gentleman offered to show us the city – “It must be difficult for two girls alone in Paris at night.” Didn't like to disillusion him by telling him that we'd already done a dubious night club and walked the Champs-Elysées at midnight, eaten snails – escargots sounds better – frogs legs and escalopes. We rejoiced in the smell of garlic; surely we were Parisians by now.

:: The music of romance

Memorable also was the evening we spent in the Pam Pam restaurant, a place with a history which had been recommended by our hall porter at our quaint little Hotel D'Angleterre.

Always music in the restaurant, he said, at one time Stéphane Grappelli played, so did Count Basie; Ella Fitzgerald sang there; it was the go-to place for Charles Aznavour, it was Edith Piaf's rendezvous and film stars from Rita Heyworth to Roger Moore graced the banquette seating which, according to Mummy's note, was in soft beige.

The head waiter conducted us downstairs to the grill, where we sat for about five hours, an evening meal, drinks and fun for £2/16 for two, less than £3 in today's money.

Not to be outdone by my mother, I was chatted up by Gilles, a Peugeot employee, and although I turned down his invitation to meet the next day he gallantly walked us back to the hotel and the following morning he'd left his business card and a huge bouquet of flowers at reception, much to the delight of our romantic hall porter.

I think I sent him a thank-you card – I hope I did as it was a beautiful, life-affirming gesture.

Since then I have visited Paris half a dozen times, always a great experience, eating in chic restaurants or picnicking in the Tuileries Garden, being a street artist, paying homage at Oscar Wilde's grave... but nothing touched April in Paris 1965.

I came home with a close-cropped haircut and a white crocheted suit and a real confidence in myself – thank you, dear departed mother for keeping your diary. 

https://www.irishnews.com/lifestyle/2021/04/19/news/anne-hailes-a-wonderful-trip-back-in-time-to-paris-1965-2286915/ 


Wednesday, April 14, 2021

Dear old me

From ninertimes.com

Using a journal to express emotions

Keeping a journal or a diary can help express emotions that we often suppress. Having a personal journal where you can write all your feelings and thoughts enables you to understand yourself better. When we allow ourselves to have that time to be with ourselves and write about what we are thinking about, it puts things into perspective.

I often use my journal when I have a terrible day or repressed memories start to come out. My journal was gifted to me by a very good friend of mine on Christmas, and I loved it. I always feel like I have to limit myself when I vent with others. I feel the need to sugarcoat things or limit how vulnerable I am with them. Although they reassure me that they won’t judge me or think differently, I can’t help but be insecure. Talking about intense feelings and past trauma is very intimate and makes one feel like a naked mole-rat.

I write to others but sometimes to myself. I have to write to myself because I take that time to reflect and accept everything I have gone through. I carry a heavy emotional weight on my shoulders, and I have been told that I need to learn to forgive and let go. I have a hard time letting go because I feel like it wouldn’t be fair to forgive those that never asked for forgiveness. It took time to realize that I don’t need to forgive them to validate them, but I need to forgive myself for allowing them to weigh me down. The hurt that they have caused me has been weighing on me for a long time, and I needed to learn to let go of it.

dear old me photo

When I write in my journal, I write everything that comes to mind disregarding the writing format or standards. I get to use whatever words that come to mind mixing Spanish and English and any swear words. I get to speak my mind freely and unfiltered. It feels liberating and therapeutic to be one with your mind, feelings, and, most importantly yourself. Writing to your past self is like writing to an old friend you are catching up with through snail mail. You don’t have to have the same considerations you have with your friends when you vent with yourself. A journal gives you a physical sense of a safe space to be vulnerable.

Having a journal can be like writing your own book. You get to document everything and look back at your previous letters as if they were chapters. That’s really what life experiences are; they are chapters in your life that make for your story’s plot. Your story should be heard, even if it’s only you that listens to it. You need to hear that you are an extraordinary human being who does not surrender regardless of what life throws your way. Your feelings and thoughts deserve to be written and acknowledged for what it is, the story of your own life.

https://www.ninertimes.com/lifestyle/dear-old-me/article_4aff5876-96fe-11eb-b9a6-03c9ec1c53a6.html

Tuesday, April 13, 2021

Journals or diaries? The value of inward reflection

From cherwell.org

Ellie-Jai Williams explores historical diaries and what we can learn today

The boundaries between diary and journal are blurry, with the terms frequently being used interchangeably. Little attention is paid to the differences between the two – even the OED conflates them, defining a diary as a journal. However, nowadays a diary is considered to be a simple recording of factual daily events, whereas a journal is something more elaborate – a recording of how events have affected the writer personally. In short, journals have achieved a special status because of the emphasis placed on their emotional content.

There are plenty of examples of famous diaries that serve as historical objects, such as Samuel Pepys’ diary that records the Great Fire of London. Many diaries of this nature serve as invaluable eyewitness accounts of living through extremely turbulent times. But what has given these diaries their lasting mark on culture is the fact that they make use of the blurred boundaries between diary and journal, mixing detailed recordings of daily events with the authors’ emotional responses to what is happening around them – people care about, and are impressed by, the emotional content. As history repeats itself and we find ourselves once again living through a time of turbulence and isolation, people are drawn again to the emotional value of journaling. Spending more time alone and indoors, we naturally turn inward – books on self -care are trending more than ever, ads imploring us to learn mindfulness are all around us, manifesting and spirituality are trending topics on TikTok. Now more than ever, we are called to recognise the value introspection and mindful reflection has in bringing clarity to a confusing reality.

But an all-too-familiar problem with journaling is the need to actually make a sustained effort in order for it to be fruitful. (I recall now all the times I’ve proudly stated I would keep a diary this year – only to abandon the notebook on January 23rd, and find it abandoned and dust-covered a few years later). Bombarded with examples of hugely profound and intimidatingly famous journals, we expect our own attempts to achieve the same thing with ease. We are disappointed to find our recording of what we had for breakfast and what we watched on telly with mum does not initially lead us to some profound emotional insight.


Persistence is therefore the key to keeping a journal – but in order to keep us motivated to write, we need a reason why we should persist. I was reading Defoe’s Robinson Crusoe last week, which I believe can help shed some light on this. The novel is another account of living through turbulence and isolation, though this time fictional. Crusoe’s fictional journal takes up a fair amount of pages; initially, it is tedious to read – simple recordings of measures Crusoe takes to survive after finding himself shipwrecked on an uninhabited island. His journal entry for 26th to the 30th of October is simply ‘I work’d very hard in carrying all my Goods to my new Habitation’, whilst December 25th which states nothing but ‘Rain all Day’. However, compare this with after he has spent half a year journaling: the content has shifted to a focus on Crusoe’s inner reality and his thoughts about the world around him. He begins to ask: ‘What am I, and all the other Creatures, wild and tame, humane and brutal, whence are we?’ and ‘Sure we are all made by some secret Power, who form’d the Earth and Sea, and Air and Sky; and who is that?’. A journal that initially was born out of the need for a coping mechanism eventually becomes an account of spiritual reflections that will subsequently shape the rest of Crusoe’s life.

Although fictional, Robinson Crusoe reflects how a key feature of journals is that they often move, organically, from what is happening around us to how we think about it. In this way, a diary can metamorphasize into a journal the longer we stick with it. Psychoanalyst Marion Milner provides a stunning portrayal of this. Her book A Life of One’s Own takes the reader through her journals on a co-journey to discover what it is that makes Milner happy. However, much like Crusoe, Milner writes that the longer she sticks with journaling, the more her interests shift from ‘what to do with [her] life’ to ‘how to look at it’. In other words, her work moves from a diary to a journal. Upon reading her journals in retrospect, Milner reveals how she now sees what she couldn’t at the time – that ‘the effort of recording [her] experiences was having an influence on their nature’. She shifts from only writing when she believed she had something interesting to say, to recording everyday interactions without any expectation of their insight. And when she releases these expectations, possibilities open up. Milner comes to realise from seemingly unassuming events profound truths about herself, such as her tendency to self-sabotage. She is brutally honest in her writing; she does not write every day – in fact, some entries simply state that she is too tired to do anything at all. Nonetheless, she stuck with journaling, and it eventually transformed into a deeply moving published book. This is because the nature of continuously recording her experience allowed Milner to access deeper layers of significance behind them. Like many examples of journals, Milner’s moves from the mundane to the unimaginable and profound.

Therefore, I believe we can learn a lot from Crusoe and Milner’s approach to journaling: stick with it, record even things that seem mundane, then watch as an unassuming diary grows into a profound journal. And when you ask yourself why you’re sticking with it, think of the possibilities it could open. To bring the conclusion back to the world of Marion Milner and psychoanalysis: if the purpose of psychoanalysis is to introduce you to the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with, yourself, then I’m a strong advocate that sticking with journaling can do something similar.

https://cherwell.org/2021/04/12/journals-or-diaries-the-value-of-inward-reflection/

Friday, April 9, 2021

Why pen and paper will always be best

From belfasttelegraph.co.uk

Whether for therapeutic purposes or simply to stay organised, Abi Jackson ponders writing by hand

 If you're still using a paper diary, always have a notebook nearby, and like your gratitude lists scribbled in ink, you don't need research to tell you that writing stuff down is great.

Just recently though, a study led by neuroscientist Kuniyoshi Sakai at University of Tokyo found students who took notes by hand had better recall than those who used phones or tablets. Participants were quizzed an hour later, to see how much they could remember from their notes, with MRI used to measure their brain activity.

Those who'd handwritten their notes showed 'significantly' more activity in areas associated with language, imaginary visualisation and the hippocampus (important for memory and navigation).

From journaling to keeping notes and to-do lists, we're big fans of putting pen to paper…

A sense of control 

There are loads of reasons many of us still love to write by hand. For some, keeping a physical log of everything is part of the appeal, for others, it's an effective way to stay organised and be more mindful and creative. Counselling Directory member Dee Johnson is a huge fan of the old-school pen and paper approach and still uses it as much as possible in her own life and admin, as well as with clients and patients.

"The writing slows things down, so it's making you more mindful and aware of what you're taking in. And we know the physical act of actually writing creates a motor memory - that's why when we're teaching children how to write, or even somebody who's had a stroke, just re-writing and shaping those letters jogs that part of the brain and memory bank," she says.

Emotional connection

Think about when you're trying to remember how to spell a word - sometimes, the sequence of letters can escape us when we're thinking or saying it out loud. But once we jot them down, we recall the spelling. 

Benefits: writing by hand is good for us on many levels
 

"That's the motor memory; you've built a neural pathway and it becomes that physical act of doing it," says Johnson.

The therapist regularly asks patients to do an exercise where they write out their own life story. Of course, sometimes disability, illness or physical differences might mean using technology is a more suitable option. But when handwriting is possible, Johnson says the effects can be powerful - not least in terms of jogging memory. "They'll often say, 'So much came back!'"

There's creative and emotional levels too. "[When we handwrite], we're being more considered about what we're putting on to the paper, and it makes a tangible connection between your emotions and yourself… When it's typed out, it's standardised, it's depersonalised. When your brain recognises your own handwriting, it gives that real visceral and emotional connection."

Building trust

Johnson thinks it's a massive shame so many people lack confidence in their handwriting, often after being told it was 'messy' at school. 

Tuning into the purpose and benefits of writing, rather than being bogged down by perfectionism, "builds confidence - we build a bit more trust in ourselves, and I think there is something in that, building that inner confidence".

Journaling, 'morning pages' or brain-dumps - where you sit with your pen and just let the words flow for a period of time each day are hailed for a host of - creativity, mindfulness and therapeutic benefits.

"Sometimes I get my patients to write down their 'what ifs', and if we get to the end of the day and it hasn't happened, you scrawl it out. And you're refocusing and regrouping, because if you let those things run away, they just catastrophise.

"When you're writing, it's bringing you back to what's actually going on, instead of what my scattered thoughts are doing. Then you build up a trust process - 'Ah, ok, this stuff passes. It's transient. I'm not stuck like this'."

https://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/life/features/why-pen-and-paper-will-always-be-best-40285343.html 

 

Friday, April 2, 2021

Essay: Keeping a journal in the time of the pandemic

From hindustantimes.com

From writing in a diary every day to maintaining online curiosity journals and bullet journaling on Instagram, more people are discovering that putting down their thoughts can help them pull through this difficult time

A few months into lockdown, author-screenwriter Nikita Deshpande found herself dreading going to bed. She wasn’t expecting ghosts or nightmares, she was just “anxious about being anxious”. “Strangely, during the pandemic I couldn’t sleep. Maybe changes in workday patterns, procrastination with WFH, or the general restlessness was causing it. Most times anxious thoughts and sometimes creative ideas that my brain fired at night prevented me from sleeping. Soon, the fear of lying awake for hours made me anxious about even going to bed,” says Deshpande, who started journaling at nine when her grandfather gifted her a diary to chronicle travel experiences from her maiden trip abroad. 

The diary has been her friend ever since and has seen her through times when she was bullied at school and whenever she was lonely or low. Now, she has turned to writing at night to combat insomnia. “And it’s worked magically! I turned journaling into a ritual where I lie down in bed and write. Now, from something I fear, the bed has become a space I’m comfortable in. I write even if I’m spent or have nothing to say as it helps me sleep,” says Deshpande, who started conducting workshops on journaling after realising the practice could help others too.

Writing in a journal regularly can help clarify your thoughts. (Shutterstock)
Writing in a journal regularly can help clarify your thoughts. (Shutterstock)

The cathartic and calming effects of journaling have long been known. Carl Jung’s disciple and noted American psychologist Dr Ira Progof is credited with popularizing journaling as a tool for therapy. In the 1960s, he developed the Intense Journaling method after observing that patients who maintained journals worked through their situations quicker and better. It gave journaling structure and a mechanism to integrate revelations for personal and spiritual growth. His book At a Journaling Workshop, and his workshops conducted worldwide by Dialogue House, USA, are cited in several books.

Since conversations around mental health have gained momentum in India, journaling for therapy has caught on here too. Mumbai-based psychologist Dr Labdhi Shah Koradia found such a profound difference in the lives of clients who maintained journals that, five years ago, she began writing in one herself. 

“Apart from dealing with our own lives, as psychologists, we take in a lot about others and as it’s all confidential, I can’t share things with my husband or friends. In complicated cases too, you can only discuss certain aspects with colleagues. While we are trained to disconnect, it isn’t always easy. Putting down my feelings and experiences of the day gives me the disconnect I need. The diary is where I can share the good, bad, ugly without being judged or stopped. This way, I don’t absorb negativity in my subconscious and can start afresh the next day. At the same time, I’m also able to reflect and improvise,” says Koradia, whose daily bedtime ritual, barring Sundays, involves journaling and relaxing with essential oils.

Over time, the practice has also helped her bond with patients. “Typically, a client’s first reaction to journaling is ‘Do I have to write every day?’ But when I tell them ‘Yes, I do it too, although initially I had to put reminders and try different methods to reach a routine’, they feel more comfortable and confident that I’ll understand their point of view. Likewise, when they forget, or skip a week because they’re overwhelmed with something, I can relate to their challenges and am not harsh. In fact, it’s helped me customise solutions for people who aren’t comfortable writing – like logging daily experiences through messages, voice notes, videos, sometimes even sketches,” she says.

But it’s not only people who don’t like writing who take to newer mediums. Before blogs saw specialisation, like journals, they too documented people’s daily lives. Koradia blogs about caring for her 93-year-old grandmother-in-law @MamaToMyGranny. Insta-journals, apps like Evernote, online journaling contests -- technology has thrown open a whole new world.

Abdul Gani Punjabi, who started The Speaking Diary podcast during the lockdown, has experienced the best of analog and digital journaling. “When we moved to Saudi Arabia in my fifth standard, I felt isolated because people there mostly stay home, whereas I was used to going anywhere, anytime in Mumbai. Without the right exposure, thoughts, or supportive people, you need to grow. I was lost and experienced a mini depression. As I had heard that journaling helps, I decided to write every day,” says Punjabi, who read Anne Frank’s The Diary of a Young Girl at 15 and whose sister pens poems in her diary.

From jotting daily routines he began analysing events and reflecting on outcomes. “Good, shameful, depressing, I left out nothing. And the more I fleshed things out, the clearer life got,” he says adding that journaling helped him develop his emotional intelligence. “You stop feeling neglected or like your voice and existence doesn’t matter. From a scared, self-critical introvert, journaling has made me calm, confident and positive,” he says. With his new-found confidence, about four years ago, he ventured into journaling experiments on social media. At first, he used the Your Quote app, where individuals ‘collaborate’ with others by adding on their own thoughts or quotes to earlier ones. Next, he ventured into Instagram, YouTube, and most recently, his podcast. “I never thought I’d do all this, but enjoyed working with new mediums. Few like reading these days. The podcast is public because friends insisted. My objective is still self-improvement,” says Punjabi, whose ‘speaking diary’ in Hindi and Urdu reflects on everything from religion and relationships to abstract concepts like silence and change.  

One of Koradia patients took to journaling so well that she went on to write a book. Nikita Deshpande’s 2016 debut novel It Must Have Been Something He Wrote also grew from journaling. She says, “A lot of day-to-day happenings, and ideas about what books and literature should be like went into my journal. Over time, they got distilled into an idea for a story; I began exploring storylines, and epiphanies about myself and others become character studies. While you won’t find chunks of my diary in the book, it was the foundation, a space to test out characters and style. Journaling developed my voice,” she says. 

Everyone from Ibn Battuta to Charles Darwin have maintained journals. (Shutterstock)
Everyone from Ibn Battuta to Charles Darwin have maintained journals. (Shutterstock)

Although freewheeling jottings like Japan’s tradition of pillow books or zuihitsu (assorted writing) form the content of most diaries, historically there have been many focused journals including travelogues like Ibn Battuta’s, Darwin’s journals to develop his theories, and even intense spiritual diaries that were precursors to today’s gratitude journals. Design thinker Tarun Durga (40) maintains a ‘curiosity journal’, where he puts down “quotes, concepts, anything I find absolutely interesting from books, blogs, anywhere”. He started doing this after he realised that he had “been reading consistently and obsessively all my life, but was only retaining a fraction of stuff that mattered.” Durga, who makes his own notebooks using Japanese Tomoe River paper, which is great for fountain pens, says he “needed a way to process all this important, incredible material.” His journal entries now incorporate sketches, diagrams, and mind maps to create a visual summary of sorts. “Engaging multiple senses helped me retain better. Now I feel like revisiting the takeaways and this method also saves me time – rather than covering each chapter and page deeply, I can quickly process the highlights in a way that makes sense to me. In fact, I’ve also begun noting my disagreements; so it’s almost become like a conversation with books,” adds Durga, who indexes his journals. This, he reveals, was inspired by Ryan Holiday’s tagging system that allowed the author to link ideas from one section of his research notes to another. His journaling habit has also been fruitful in other ways. “My doodles have become art; art that sells,” says Durga, who posts his sketches on Facebook and Instagram.

“I always wanted to make art, but to draw daily you also need inspiration every day. The journal gave me that. What started as quick, bad sketches of speakers whose quotes I was noting, has become a way for me to process ideas, convey messages, express curiosity,” he says.

And then there’s bullet journaling – a meticulous, notebook organising system. Indeed, there is a vibrant bullet journaling scene on social media but many, Nikita Deshpande has noticed, are intimidated and/or put-off by the beauty contest between BuJos that make it to Insta.

But whether you write in an old fashioned paper diary or maintain a public one online, it is clear that journaling is getting bigger as, in an increasingly complicated world, it offers pause, helps untangle thoughts, unearths latent talents and eventually leads individuals to a greater understanding of themselves and the larger world. 

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